I had the most amazing experience last week. I went to a local concert with my husband to dance and move a bit and simply enjoy myself. It was lovely.
While I was there I observed a mother and her young son (about 1 year old) strapped to the front of her. Their intimacy and love was palpable. It reminded me of my relationship with my first biological child, my son. The business of giving birth was behind me. And giving birth was transformational – changing me to mother most surely and bringing him life. The stage was set for a blissful connection. We were more aligned than I have ever experienced before or since. (Although I have experienced something similar with my husband at times.) Recently, however, I have been more challenged in my connection with my son, or lack of connection. But as I watched this mother and her child, I felt their love actually wash over me and remind me of the past, of how completely supportive and present I was for my child. I knew there was no mistake, that the experience of the mother-child love that I felt and experienced was a divine gift for me that would serve me. I knew this was the answer for me – to return to a fully supportive orientation with my son.
The next day I was still uncertain about how to shift the dynamics. I shared my challenge and my experience with a friend, and she gave me the most wonderful advice! “For the next couple of weeks just write yourself a quick note about how grateful you are for …. Fill it in describing the relationship you desire with your son. Describe it and feel how you would as if it is already established, in the present. How close you feel to him, the connection that you share, grateful that supporting him has brought this closeness and bond that reminds you of when he was a toddler. Think it, act it, feel it. – It is amazing what can manifest in such a short period of time. Create and visualize the exact connection as if it is already happening. It has done amazing things for me. The law of attraction.”
On day one I experienced the love that I felt at the concert again. I gave thanks for it at my altar. I started to think differently about my son. I reached out to him in a supportive way on his last day home for Thanksgiving (at his sister’s) and I felt certain that a shift in the challenging dynamic I have been experiencing is possible. This 2 week assignment that my friend provided will help me sustain the supportive orientation and will change everything within me, which cannot help but impact our relationship.
I’m sharing this experience in the hope that others may take on this assignment to transform dynamics in their lives that are not as they would wish.
The truth is that WE are the designer of our lives and experience.
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